Writing funeral cards: Condolence texts, tips and beautiful mourning sayings

Writing funeral cards can be a real challenge, especially when it comes to finding the right words to express your condolences. Whether you're just looking for a few short and sweet words or a loving farewell, a sympathy card should always come from the heart.

In this article, I'll show you how to write a sympathy card that really brings comfort. You'll find out which funeral card sayings are suitable, how to create a loving and personal card and how to formulate a letter of condolence that does justice to the occasion. Without any stiff formalities, but simply and sensitively. Let's find out together how to find the right words in difficult times.

Occasions for a funeral card

Writing a bereavement card is a loving gesture to express sympathy and support in difficult times. There are various occasions when such a card is appropriate. Here are some of the most common situations in which you could write a bereavement card:

Death in the family

The loss of a family member is always particularly painful. In such moments, it is important to stand by the loved ones and show them that they are not alone. A bereavement card can provide comfort and express your sincere sympathy. Whether it's the death of a parent, a sibling or another close relative, an empathetic message can mean a lot.

Loss of a friend

Even when a friend passes away, the pain is often great. Friends are like the family we choose, and their loss leaves a deep void. A mourning card to the family of the deceased friend or to mutual friends can help to bear the pain together and share beautiful memories.

Death of a colleague or neighbor

At first glance, the death of a colleague or neighbor may not seem as close as the loss of a family member or close friend, but a mourning card is also appropriate here. Colleagues and neighbors are often an important part of our daily lives, and their death can also leave a gap. A card can express sympathy and honor the connection you had with this person.

Unexpected or tragic deaths

Sometimes death comes completely unexpectedly and tears a deep hole in the lives of the bereaved. Accidents, sudden illnesses or other tragic circumstances make the loss particularly difficult to bear. In such cases, a bereavement card is a way of providing comfort and alleviating the feeling of helplessness a little.

Death of a child

The death of a child is probably one of the most difficult losses imaginable. The right words are particularly difficult to find. An empathetic mourning card can show the parents that they are not alone in their grief and that the child will not be forgotten.

Death of a pet

For many people, pets are like family members. The death of a beloved pet can therefore also cause deep pain. A bereavement card to someone who has lost their pet can provide comfort and show that you understand and sympathize with their grief.

Long illness and redemption

Sometimes death occurs after a long illness, and although the loss hurts, there can also be a sense of relief that the deceased no longer has to suffer. A bereavement card in such cases can express both grief and relief and show the bereaved that you are thinking of them.

Memorial days and anniversaries

Even after the actual mourning period, there are occasions when a mourning card is appropriate. Memorial days and anniversaries of the death are moments when the memory of the deceased is particularly present. A card on such days shows that you have not forgotten the deceased person and continue to think of the bereaved.

Regardless of the occasion, the most important thing about a bereavement card is the sincerity and compassion you express in it. It's about comforting the bereaved and showing them that they are not alone in their grief.

Choosing the right card when writing funeral cards

Choosing the right funeral card is the first step in expressing your sympathy and condolences in an appropriate way. Not only the text, but also the design and quality of the card play an important role. Here are some aspects you should consider when making your choice:

Design and layout

The design of the funeral card should be simple and respectful. Subtle colors such as white, grey, beige or pastel shades are often the best choice. Darker colors such as black or dark blue are also common, as they reflect the grief and seriousness of the situation. Avoid bright colors and eye-catching patterns that may seem inappropriate.

The layout should be clear and uncluttered, without too many distracting elements. A simple motif, such as a Blum, a tree or a cross, can be suitable. Sometimes cards with nature motifs such as sunsets or landscapes are also a good choice, as they convey peace and tranquillity.

Quality of the paper

The quality of the paper also contributes to how the card is perceived. High-quality, thick paper not only feels better, but also shows that you have made an effort. Glossy paper can look classy, while matt paper exudes simple elegance. Go for what you like best and what suits the recipient's personality.

Personal preferences of the sender and recipient

If you know the recipient's preferences, this can be helpful when choosing a card. Some people prefer religious motifs and quotes, while others may prefer more neutral or nature-related designs. Your own relationship with the deceased and the bereaved can also influence the choice of card. A personal touch can make the card even more meaningful.

Pre-printed or blank cards

Pre-printed cards with funeral sayings or poems are a good choice if you are struggling to find the right words. They provide a base that you can add your own thoughts to. If you prefer to write a very personal message, blank cards are the better choice. Here you have the freedom to write exactly what you want to express.

Handwritten or printed?

A handwritten message is always more personal and shows that you have taken the time to write it. Even if your handwriting isn't perfect, the gesture will certainly be appreciated. However, if you have to write a lot of cards or your handwriting is difficult to read, you can also print the text. In this case, make sure you choose a font that is easy to read and structure the text clearly.

When writing funeral cards, it is important that the message is neat and easy to read. To ensure that your lines remain straight and even, you can place lined paper under your writing paper. The lines of the paper will show through the writing paper and serve as a guide so that you can write nice, straight lines without any effort. This simple method will help you make your card visually appealing and keep your text neat and organized.

Buy or do it yourself?

While store-bought cards are often professionally designed and of high quality, a homemade card can be particularly personal and precious. If you are creative and enjoy crafting, you could design a personalized mourning card. A self-made design or a personal illustration can give the card a unique touch.

Choosing the right funeral card requires a little thought and empathy. Ultimately, however, what counts most is the gesture and the sincere sympathy you express. A carefully chosen card can give comfort to the bereaved and show them that you are thinking of them in these difficult times.

Formal and personal salutation when writing bereavement cards

The right salutation in a bereavement card is crucial to express your sympathy and respect. Depending on how close you are to the recipients, the salutation can be formal or personalized. Here are some tips on how to choose and formulate the right salutation:

Formal salutation for unknown recipients

If you do not know the bereaved well, a formal salutation is appropriate. This shows respect and politeness, which is particularly important in such a sensitive context. Here are some examples of formal salutations:

• "Dear Ms. Müller,"
• "Dear Mr. Schmidt,"
• "Dear Mr. Meier family,"
• "Dear Mrs. Müller," (if a slightly more personal note is desired)

After the salutation, you can start with your text expressing your sympathy and condolences.

Personal salutation for friends and family

A personal salutation is more appropriate for close friends and family members. It creates a familiar and warm atmosphere and shows that you are closely connected to the recipient. Here are some examples of personal salutations:

• "Dear Anna,"
• "Dear Thomas,"
• "Dear Schneider family,"
• "Dear Aunt Maria,"

Here, too, the following applies: After the salutation comes the actual text of your bereavement card, in which you express your feelings and sympathy.

Combined salutation for multiple recipients

Sometimes the bereavement card is addressed to several people, for example the entire family of the deceased. In this case, you can use a combined salutation:

• "Dear Müller family,"
• "Dear Anna, dear Thomas," (if you want to address individual family members directly)

These salutations show that you are thinking of all recipients and expressing your condolences to them collectively.

Tips for the salutation and introduction

• Avoid overly informal or casual forms of address, which may seem inappropriate in such a context.
• Be respectful and sensitive in your choice of words.
• Adapt the salutation to the relationship you have with the recipient. The closer the relationship, the more personal the salutation can be.
• After the salutation, you can start with a sensitive sentence that expresses your sympathy. For example: "It is with great sadness that I learned of the loss of your mother."

Example for the introduction after the salutation

• "Dear Mrs. Müller, it was with great sadness that I learned of the death of your husband. Please accept my sincere condolences."
• "Dear Anna, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time."

The right salutation and a sensitive introduction lay the foundation for a respectful and comforting mourning card. They show the recipients that you are with them in their grief and will not leave them alone.

The text: What should be included when writing bereavement cards?

The text in a bereavement card is the centerpiece through which you express your sincere sympathy and compassion. It's often not easy to find the right words, but a few basic elements can help you write a sensitive and appropriate message. Here are some points to consider in your text:

Expression of sympathy

Start your bereavement card by expressing your deepest sympathy and condolences. This shows the recipients that you are thinking of them and are sorry for their loss.

Examples:

• "I am so sorry to hear of your loss."
• "It was with great sadness that I learned of your father's death."
• "My sincere condolences at this difficult time."

Memories of the deceased

If you knew the deceased personally, you can share fond memories or special moments. This can give comfort to the bereaved and show them that the deceased is appreciated and remembered fondly.

Examples:

• "I will never forget how warm and friendly your mother always was. Her warmth touched many people."
• "Your brother was a wonderful friend who was always there for me. I will miss our experiences together very much."

Offer support and comfort

Offer your support and help to the bereaved. It is important that they know that they are not alone in their grief and that they can count on you.

Examples:

• "If you need someone to talk to or need help with anything, please don't hesitate to contact me."
• "I'm always there for you if you need me."

Religious or spiritual words (if appropriate)

If you know the recipient is religious or spiritual, appropriate words from their faith can provide comfort. Be sure to be sensitive and respectful.

Examples:

• "May God give you comfort and peace during this difficult time."
• "My prayers are with you and your family."

Conclusion and last words

End your bereavement card with a final sentence that emphasizes your sympathy once again. This rounds off your message and leaves a lasting impression.

Examples:

• "With deepest sympathy,"
• "With best regards,"
• "With sincere sympathy,"

Examples of complete funeral card writing texts

Example 1:

Dear Anna,

It was with great sadness that I learned of your father's death. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your father was a wonderful person who was always friendly and helpful. I will miss his warmth and our conversations very much. If you need someone to talk to or need help with anything, please don't hesitate to contact me. I am always here for you.

With deepest sympathy

[Your name]

Example 2:

Dear Mrs. Müller,

It was with great dismay that I learned of your husband's death. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. Your husband was a remarkable person whose smile and kindness touched many people. May God give you comfort and peace during this difficult time. My prayers are with you and your family.

With sincere sympathy

[Your Name]

The most important thing when writing a sympathy card is that the words come from the heart and are sincere. Show sympathy, share memories, offer support and find a comforting ending. In this way, your bereavement card will offer comfort and support to the bereaved at this difficult time.

You can find many more examples in our blog post: Funeral sayings from the heart - The top 100 for comfort and sympathy

The right time to write and send bereavement cards

Finding the right time to write and send a bereavement card is just as important as the content of the card itself. Here are some guidelines and considerations that can help you choose the right moment:

Immediately after receiving the death notice

It is advisable to write and send the bereavement card as soon as possible after receiving the death notice. A prompt message shows the bereaved that you are thinking of them and supporting them in their grief. It is a gesture of immediate sympathy that can be particularly comforting in the first few days after the loss.

When you find out about the loss later

Sometimes you only find out about the loss weeks or even months after the death. In these cases, it is also appropriate to send a bereavement card. In your card, you can mention that you have only recently learned of the sad event but still want to express your deepest sympathy. The bereaved will appreciate that you have taken the time to think of them.

Example:

Dear Müller family,

I have only just learned of your painful loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

With deepest sympathy

[Your name]

Special days of remembrance

It can also be comforting to send a card on special days of remembrance such as the first anniversary of the death or the birthday of the deceased. Such gestures show that you have not forgotten the deceased and that you are also thinking of the bereaved when these days are particularly difficult for them.

Example:

Dear Anna,

Today is the anniversary of the loss of your beloved mother. I am thinking of you and sending you lots of strength and love. May the memory of her give you comfort.

With best regards

[Your name]

Personal and social consideration

When choosing the time, also consider the personal and social circumstances of the bereaved. In some cultures or families, there are special mourning times or rituals that you should respect. If necessary, find out about them so that you can show your sympathy appropriately.

Tips for the right time

• Act immediately: If possible, write and send the bereavement card as soon as possible after receiving the news of the death.
• Late reactions: If you learn of the loss later, send the card anyway to express your sympathy.
• Memorial days: Use special memorial days to send comfort and sympathy again.
• Respect and tact: Pay attention to the personal and cultural customs of the bereaved.

The right time to send a sympathy card shows the bereaved that you are thinking of them and respect their grief. A timely and thoughtful message can provide much comfort and make them feel that they are not alone in their grief.

Common mistakes when writing funeral cards

When writing a funeral card, it is important to be sensitive and respectful. However, it's easy to make mistakes that can make the message less comforting or even hurtful. Here are some common mistakes and tips on how to avoid them:

1. writing too formal or distant

Overly formal or distant language can come across as cold and impersonal. Funeral cards should always have a personal and heartfelt touch.

Avoid:

• "Dear Schmidt family, in deepest sorrow and sincere sympathy."

Better:

• "Dear Schmidt family, it is with deepest sympathy that I think of you and your painful loss."

2. be too informal or flippant

On the other hand, language should not be too casual or colloquial, as this can undermine the seriousness of the situation.

Avoid:

• "Heyer, I'm really sorry about what happened. That's really tough."

Better:

• "Dear Anna, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time."

3. use clichéd or empty phrases

Standardized phrases can come across as impersonal and superficial. Try to find your own words that express your sincere sympathy.

Avoid:

• "I know exactly how you feel."

Better:

• "I can only begin to imagine how difficult this loss must be for you. Please know that I am here for you."

4. giving inappropriate advice

Grief is a very personal process, and unsolicited advice can come across as inappropriate. Instead, simply express your sympathy.

Avoid:

• "You need to stay strong."
• "It'll be okay."

Better:

• "I wish you lots of strength during this difficult time."
• "My thoughts are with you."

5. making overly religious statements

If you are not sure whether the bereaved are religious, strongly religious statements may be inappropriate. Be sensitive and respectful of the recipient's beliefs.

Avoid:

• "It was God's will."

Better:

• "I hope your faith gives you comfort during this difficult time."

6 Address the cause of death

It is not always appropriate to mention the circumstances of the death in a bereavement card, especially if they are painful or traumatic.

Avoid:

• "I'm so sorry he died in the accident."

Better:

• "I am so sorry to hear of his sudden death. My thoughts are with you."

7. long texts without paragraphs when writing bereavement cards

Long, unstructured texts can be difficult to read. Paragraphs and a clear structure help the message to be better absorbed.

Avoid:

• Continuous flowing text without paragraphs.

Better:

• Structure the text into paragraphs to clearly emphasize important thoughts and feelings.

8. do not make a personal offer of support

Show that you are willing to help, but be specific and honest in your offer.

Avoid:

• "Get in touch if you need anything." (too general)

Better:

• "I'm always available for a chat or if you need practical help."

9. forgetting to sign your own name

With group or company cards, it can easily happen that no clear sender is indicated. Make sure your card is personally signed.

Avoid:

• Signing with "The team from..."

Better:

• Sign personally, e.g. "Sincerely yours, [your name]"

10. write too much about yourself

The bereavement card should focus on the bereaved and the deceased, not on you and your own feelings.

Avoid:

• "I'm so sad and don't know how to deal with it."

Better:

• "I'm thinking of you and wishing you lots of strength during this difficult time."

By avoiding these common mistakes, you can ensure that your bereavement card is respectful, empathetic and comforting. The bereaved will appreciate your sincere sympathy.

Writing bereavement cards is a heartfelt gesture that shows you are thinking of the bereaved and supporting them in their grief. With the right words, a loving design and the right timing, you can offer comfort and sincerely express your sympathy. Avoid common mistakes, choose appropriate funeral sayings and take the time to make your message personal and sensitive. By following these tips, your bereavement card will become a valuable support for the bereaved and show them that they are not alone in their difficult time.